Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness

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My hope is that this book is a small step toward a major course correction, one that teaches our children that acting tough isn’t the same thing as being tough. When we satisfy basic needs, we create an environment where people play to win, instead of playing not to lose.

Performance coach Magness ( The Passion Paradox) delivers a sensible guide to sticking with one’s goals. To better control how one responds to adversity, the author advises creating “space between the stimulus and response so that we can better navigate what’s going on,” describing how brain imaging of experienced meditators shows that they can master their response to pain and lessen its mental toll. Do Hard Things tasks us with re-thinking the ingrained ideas we have about the traditional model of toughness, while at the same time, providing us with the mental tools to develop real toughness. When we go in with bravado, it backfires because at the first inkling that we may not be able to succeed, our brain freaks out. Magness’s book helps us to see that by leaning into discomfort, anxiety and all the stressors that coming from trying to achieve difficult things we can learn to respond to things in ways that work successfully rather than instantly reacting and causing ourselves further stresses.To create space so that you don’t jump straight from unease to the quickest possible solution, but to the [correct] one. He has real skill in bringing his concepts to life with a mixture of lovely language, peer-reviewed studies and fascinating anecdotes and stories. The topics range from capacity, training, focus, mindfulness, emotion, thoughts, feelings, framing, inner voices, etc. I just w

You are training your mental muscle to be in control, to be considerate, and deliberate with your response. REAL TOUGHNESS is a master class in how to develop resilience, persistence and confidence under pressure. this book resonates with my soul and it's like LET ME TELL YOU A SECRET MY FRIEND YOU ARE THE CHOSEN ONE THE ONE MEANT FOR GREATER THINGS. I initially read this book to gain insights for my own distance running journey, and to consider how Magness's ideas relate to Jesus's/the Bible's view of toughness.In Do Hard Thingsthey encourage us to go above and beyond the status quo in everything from schoolwork to serving the poor. Do Hard Things is essential reading for anyone looking to cultivate inner strength in a genuine and authentic way. This book would be great for coaches or parents looking to find ways to foster toughness and grit in their players/kids. What does an adult who was taught to rely on fear for motivation do when left to her own devices in the real world? First, emphasizing core skills that aid performance, including confidence, goal setting, attention control, arousal control, imagery, self-talk, compartmentalization, and mental skills foundation.