Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance

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Trauma counsellor Kelly McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behaviour by taking a hard look at childhood trauma and its lasting impact. An endless ache to love and be loved. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable moods and painful relationships. In Chicago, an artist named Eric Von Haynes co-founded a fridge network called The Love Fridge in 2020. Today, he helps oversee more than 20 love fridges, each decorated with eye-popping colors and phrases like “Free food for all!” According to Von Haynes, the fridges are filled, cleaned, and maintained by hundreds of volunteers. He estimates that thousands of pounds of food move through them each month. Sound familiar? Trauma psychotherapist Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviours - and are unable to stop. But not all relationships between moms and their daughters are rosy. Counselor and coach Rosjke Hasseldine explains that conflict is common in these relationships, though it's often dismissed as being unimportant or simply the result of hormone fluctuations (via Rosjke.com). At the root of this conflict, she says, is actually a much deeper "emotional starvation" and neglect of personal needs. Join Mother Hunger Support Group that provides a supportive and safe space for individuals who are dealing with Mother Hunger. With forums for open discussion, private messaging for one-on-one support, and access to resources and information, our aim is to help individuals find comfort and healing through shared experiences and connections with others who have gone through similar struggles. We are dedicated to fostering a non-judgmental and compassionate environment, moderated for safety and support, where individuals can find the help and hope they need during a difficult time.

That’s awesome. As is the fact that Julia, who spent a full year reporting this challenging story, promptly heard from a Senate committee that will use her work in their own investigation of Universal Health Services. There’s no doubt her revelations will continue to have a big impact in the months and years to come.

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If you can, please support the reporting you get from Mother Jones—that exists to make a difference, not a profit—with a donation of any amount today. We need more donations than normal to come in from this specific blurb to help close our funding gap before it gets any bigger. Donate WHO DOESN’T LOVE A POSITIVE STORY—OR TWO? An insatiable need for sex and love. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable and painful relationships. This story was originally published by Grist andis reproduced here as part of the Climate Desk collaboration. But community fridges are about as low-key and energy efficient as solutions get. Zauderer didn’t burn any fossil fuels to walk his pizza to the fridge near his apartment. And the Love Fridge, which acquires only used refrigerators, powers two of them with solar panels—a vision that Von Haynes has for more to come.

Mother Hunger destigmatizes the shame that comes with being under-mothered and misdiagnosed, and offers a healing path.The fridges also offer a degree of anonymity for those in need that’s hard to find at more traditional food distribution centers, like food pantries. People don’t have to sign up or prove their eligibility to use them. “The whole point is dignified, anonymous access,” Zauderer said. “We’re not the arbiters of how much to take.” “Think about a half-eaten burger. That’s a no-go. But this is very rare. Most people bring good leftovers.”

Trauma counselor Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviors-and are unable to stop. Your mom may have remained consistently disconnected, or too preoccupied to read a book to help you fall asleep at night or failed to comfort you, especially when you were hurting. She may have ignored your feelings and wanted you to be there for her instead, as in caring for her pain and soothing her worn nerves. A caregiver who was not at all interested in you as a unique person, with gifts, talents, and treasures. Your mom may have had an addiction or mental or physical illness that superseded her ability to care for you. You may have had a sibling who was chronically ill that required more time and energy from your mom with nothing left to give to the rest of the family. This could be the first time a corporation would be held criminally liable for forced labor in their own supply chains,” according to a retired special agent we talked to. That’s what a civil rights lawyer wrote to Julia Lurie, the day after her major investigation into a psychiatric hospital chain that uses foster children as “cash cows” published, letting her know he was using her findings that same day in a hearing to keep a child out of one of the facilities we investigated.How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance The constant search for mother love can be a lifelong emotional burden, but healing begins with knowing and naming what we are missing. Digital Reads A Curse For True Love : the thrilling final book in the Once Upon a Broken Heart series A fridge in Austin, Texas, once went missing. It had been “borrowed” by someone who wanted to keep beers cold for an event at South by Southwest, according to Kellie Stiewert, an organizer at the ATX Free Fridge project. But such shenanigans are rare. That the fridges can be placed with a property owner’s permission just about anywhere—in front of a taqueria, a person’s home, an office building—is what makes the concept “beautiful,” Stiewert said.